“Don’t cry.”
“There’s nothing to be mad about.”
“Everything is fine. There’s no need to worry.”
“Turn your frown upside down.”
While these may be well-intended imperatives, they can have long term consequences on our physical, mental and emotional health.
These phrases teach us that it’s NOT okay to feel what we’re feeling. We learn that what we’re experiencing is not appropriate and maybe even wrong.
Hearing sentences like this – especially when we’re really young – trains us not to process our emotions effectively, so any emotional conflict we experience is left unresolved in our bodies where it can make us sick. Wah wah.
Think of it like this. Holding on to old hurts, resentments, and traumas, is like trying to keep a blown-up beach ball (or a unicorn floaty) under the surface of the water.
It takes a tremendous amount of muscle-shaking energy to keep the surface of the water calm (which is a facade anyways).
Are you with me?
It doesn’t even need to be a BIG, significant event such as the death of a loved one, divorce, abuse, accidents, heartbreak, etc.
It could very well be stress that you experience daily. You know, things like staying in a negative relationship, having a bully for a boss, being discouraged from expressing yourself, people pleasing or having an ill parent, etc.
Maybe you’re reading this thinking:
Why do I have to process these emotions?
Every feeling just wants to be felt. But this isn’t about the feelings. It’s about you moving on.
Holding the beach ball down is a massive energy drain.
Imagine that in your body right now.
You’re in the pool, it’s a warm summer day. Everyone around you is splashing about having a good time while you’re struggling to keep that ball under the water. Can you FEEL the quake in your triceps? Can you notice the grimace on your face? Are you holding your breath?
It’s taking a lot out of you.
The reason is we’re spending energy trying to ignore the emotion or the conflict instead of directing energy towards our physiological needs such as digesting our food, or remembering where you put your keys, or feeling calm and at peace.
Its energy that you could put towards something useful, productive, creative, positive.
Your unprocessed emotions are literally robbing you of your vitality. It’s estimated that stress is connected to 80-90% of illness. Woah.
Just to back up a bit, these conflicts are unresolved because when they happened, you didn’t have the tools to effectively process them.
They stay in your body, and as mentioned they steal energy from you on 4 different levels.
It’s Energy Robbery in the First Degree
- Physical level: your endurance, strength, power, flexibility, vitality
- Emotional level: your moods, affect, ability to adapt to stress
- Mental level: your thoughts, concentration, focus, memory, rational thinking, creative problem-solving abilities
- Intuitive level: your intuition, gut instincts, inspiration, divine downloads OR you’re too sensitive to the stuff around you that isn’t yours – taking on other people’s dramas
So… Why Process These Blocks?
Well.. they are exactly that. BLOCKS.
These residual, unprocessed emotions are blocking you from:
- Being able to take care of yourself
- Healing your body
- Setting good boundaries
- Loving deeply
- Building solid, intimate relationships (which studies show are one of the best things you can do for your longevity)
- Creating things that will contribute to the world
- Serving your family and community in a sustainable way
- Expressing your self authentically
- Shining your light…
… Which I believe you’re here to do.
We all have a light to shine. You have a light to shine. I’m soooooo very interested in working with people who are ready to step into who they truly are. I believe that this is how the entire world benefits from your individual journey.
This is about transformation.
The way out is to release the emotions. But how do you know what to release? So much is happening in the subconscious. How do you release them once you know?
Well… there is a specific form of mind-body medicine I do in my office that can, in 6-18 weeks, do what 20 years of therapy can barely touch. It’s a system of healing that comes out of Switzerland called Psycho-Somatic-Energetics. It’s my favourite way of clearing out these old, icky, gucky, emotional issues.
If this feels interesting to you, and you’re ready to put your past behind you and move into more energy, joy, and peace, then I invite you to give the clinic a call at 250-585-0379 to book yourself in for a testing appointment. We’ll use my biofeedback device to find the emotional conflict that is ready to be processed. Next, we’ll introduce natural remedies to dissolve the conflict.
And you free yourself.
Seriously.
I’ve been doing this work for 12 years and every time I use the natural remedies to clear another conflict I feel so much lighter. I’m triggered less. Stress doesn’t linger in my body.
Instead of trying to keep the float under the surface of the water, I’m lounging on top of it, sipping a refreshing beverage, and loving life.
Where are you on this idea?
I’m curious to know your thoughts. Do you notice emotional stress having an impact on your physical well being? Your mental well-being? Lemme know in the comments below.
To your healthy, happy, delightful life,
